Sunday, October 16, 2016

count your blessings, 家家有本难念经 Jiā jiā yǒu běn nán jīng

 家家有本难念经 jiā jiā yǒu běn nán jīng
This Chinese phrase means every family has a difficult prayer. Yesterday, with my Campomelic group, I found that some mothers have lost two babies. And today, I found out a friend lost her baby and then lost her ability to have any more babies.
When I was mourning, a friend told me this song,
Count them one by one.
Count your blessings,

Wednesday, October 5, 2016


Ann, my name is Lori and I believe I recently read your book (I am in Toronto, Ontario, Canada) when Dr. Andrew James shared it with me. I believe he took care of your son. Am I correct?
If I am, I was blown away by your book- beautifully written. I hope you don't mind that I have written to you. Lori (Grief Support Nurse at SickKids Hospital in Toronto)

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Dr. Jane Warland. From one bereaved mum and writer to another.

From one bereaved mum and writer to another.

 Dr. Jane Warland.

Jane is a registered midwife and senior academic at the School of Nursing and Midwifery at the University of South Australia. Since suffering the unexplained term stillbirth of her daughter Emma in 1993, she has been a passionate researcher into preventative and modifiable risk factors for stillbirth as well as promoting public and maternity care provider awareness of stillbirth.

When we experience the death of a baby, we are reminded of the realities of life and often our innocence and naiveté are gone. This awareness can affect future pregnancies and the way we parent our living and/or subsequent children. Being pregnant again can be a very anxious and stressful time. The experience of this immense loss can shadow a subsequent pregnancy and also impact on the way we parent. During this session Jane will share her experiences and invite parents to ask questions and share their experiences.

Monday, August 22, 2016

Rainbow baby

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, I have a rainbow baby. His brother died at 55 days old. This video came out the very day I am writing my next book with a chapter on Rainbow baby.…/lullaby-album-by-david-motola…

Dear David, I am a grieving mother, and I have a rainbow baby. I am the writer of "Diary of a bereaved mother." Can it be fated that today, I write a chapter of my next book book on rainbow child and I come across you. I will not support you financially but I will publicise your appeal through Facebook, Blogs and my book. Thank you. 

Friday, August 19, 2016

My ex pastor remembers his dead son

Eleven years ago we faced the devastating stillborn arrival of Toby Jack (TJ). Robyn and I visited his burial spot today with the anticipation of seeing him on the other side of this life. Looking back I am still so grateful for the support of people from all over the world who journeyed with us in this first taste of parenting. Each of you holds a special place in our lives.

Monday, August 15, 2016

A 14-year-old girl with Down syndrome died choking on a piece of meat

Loading Members of the Gloriavale Christian Community. Photo / Mark Mitchell
A 14-year-old girl with Down syndrome died choking on a piece of meat in Gloriavale Christian Community while shut in an isolation room.
Prayer Ready was in an isolation room with the door handles disabled to prevent people getting in and out when she choked on her dinner, according to a coroner's report into her death.

Little Eibhlin Wills was killed by the cold sore virus, treatable in adults, but potentially deadly for infants.

Louise and John Wills were left devastated by the sudden death of their newborn daughter. Photo / Facebook
It was eventually discovered that Eibhlin had contracted it from the hospital where she was born.
According to John, "We know from tests that the virus was already in her system when she came home from the maternity hospital with us."
Devastated by their loss, John and Louis are working to raise awareness about the virus and its potentially deadly affect on infants.
The couple want to see policy changes made to prevent deaths like their daughter's and are campaigning for maternity welcome packs to include information on the virus.
They want Eibhlin's story told in antenatal classes, to have posters put up in clinics and medical students to be briefed about the virus too.