Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Mail Order Bride Kindle Edition

This book is about bought brides from the internet.The bride wasn't bashful and was all out to cheat their husbands. Concealing the birth of her daughter, she pretends to adopt the girl and bring her up.  Her daughter got into trouble with boy gangs and she got involved with a toy boy. The story ends with a blood donation revealing that she is the mother of her daughter.

I put this book on Amazon Kindle.
by Ann Kit Suet Chin Chan

My book is available on Kindle

Mail Order Bride Kindle Edition 


Kindle, Kindle eBook, January 19, 2016

Monday, January 18, 2016

17 year old killed in a car,

17 year old killed in a car, they were boy racers, he was not. 


Friends and family farewell Auckland crash victim

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  • Robbie Taylor was killed when the car he was travelling in went out of control and crashed into a tree on Ian McKinnon Drive. Photo / Dean Purcell
    Robbie Taylor was killed when the car he was travelling in went out of control and crashed into a tree on Ian McKinnon Drive. Photo / Dean Purcell
    A large number of students, staff and parents gathered at St Peter's College this afternoon to commemorate the life of 17-year-old Robbie Taylor who died in a car accident this weekend.
    The teen, who was due to enter his final year at college, was killed when the car he was travelling in went out of control and crashed into a tree on Ian McKinnon Drive, Eden Terrace on Sunday afternoon.
    Two others, the driver and another passenger, were also injured in the accident.
    Today, headmaster James Bentley said a large number of students, staff and parents gathered at the school to share in a memorial liturgy for the popular student.
    On its Facebook page the college's first XV team also paid its tribute and offered its condolences to the young man's family.
    "Rest in peace Robbie Taylor. The news of the passing of such a young man in the St Peter's community is very tragic. Rest in Love Robbie and St Peter will no doubt open the gate to heaven for one of its own angels."
    Yesterday, friends also paid their tribute to the 17-year-old, describing him as a keen comedian that was fun to be around.
    Close friend James Cameron had known Mr Taylor since Year Nine and had been looking forward to seeing out their final year together.
    "He was pretty much a comedian and funny to be around. He was pretty bright, even in class he was the type you'd want to sit next to."
    Mr Cameron also reflected on what he saw as the injustice around his friend's death.
    "He was just in the car with them ... he didn't deserve it ... they were boy-racing, but it was just unfortunate that he was involved in this."
    A police spokeswoman said the investigation into the crash was ongoing and was expected to take several weeks to complete.
    She said so far no one had been arrested and no charges had been laid.

    Friday, January 15, 2016

    Sudden Unexpected Death of an Infant (SUDI)

    Today, I got a phone call from Anika from Plunket. She was calling to raise funds for Plunket's work with the children of New Zealand. I worked with Plunket myself and through my church's Christmas in the park.  I promised her I will write for them. Last year, they asked if I would help them, I told them my priorities have change, but I would write for them.

    Last year, they asked if I would help them, I told them my priorities have change, but I would write for them.
    Plunket’s Appeal raises vital funds for a wide variety of services , such as parenting education courses, car seat safety schemes, education in schools, toy libraries and many other valuable resources and programmes.

    In the 80s, I was a young mum 3 times. I had no family in New Zealand. Plunket was family to me. Plunket's care was epitomised when I was sick when I was pregnant with Andrew and after he had died. I could never repay what Plunket did for me. I tried by collecting door to door, I tried by writing about Plunket. I wrote in detail about Plunket's help in my book and in my other posts.

    Diary of a bereaved Mother
    These services rely on community support to keep going. Your support will assist Plunket to give every New Zealand child the best start in life.

    Sudden Unexpected Death of an Infant (SUDI)

    SUDI can be a frightening topic for new parents to think about. Sadly, each year in New Zealand 60 to 70 babies die suddenly when they sleep. Most of these can be prevented. It is important to understand the facts and know what you can do to help protect your baby.

    But on the other hand, SIDS or SUDI  can come any time, My friend, middle class professional, Stay at home mom, went for a short outing, came home, put baby to sleep, went to make a cup of coffee. the baby had died.

    How can I help to protect my baby from SUDI?

    All babies, in all cultures and at all times, need these six conditions to protect their lives as they pass through the critical first 6 months:
    • My baby is smoke-free.
    • If not smoke-free, my baby always sleeps in ‘a baby bed’.
    • My baby sleeps on their back.
    • My baby sleeps with a clear face and head.
    • My baby sleeps in the same room as me when I am also asleep.
    • My baby is breastfed.
    These are essential principles of protection for all babies. Experts talk about avoiding the ‘triple risk’, when 3 risks come together to cause sudden infant death: a vulnerable baby, at a vulnerable age, in a vulnerable setting. You can read more about protecting your baby.

    What if I want my baby to sleep in my bed?

    If you want to sleep in the same bed or sleeping space as your baby, youwill need to set it up to be ‘baby safe’, which means:
    ‘lying on the back + face stays clear + smoke-free’
    More vulnerable babies need their own baby bed. It can be harder to control safety when you or others share a bed with a baby. People move, bedding shifts, tiredness varies. Babies are at different ages and stages of risk, and some babies have less ‘fight’ in them than others.
    Talk with Plunket about what ‘baby safe’ means for your particular baby when they sleep.

    Vulnerable babies

    Risks may be built into the baby, the situation or the setting. The babies who will need the extra protection of their own baby bed every time and place they sleep, include:
    • babies of mothers who smoked during pregnancy (baby will have a damaged ‘wake up’ response)
    • babies in situations where people have been using alcohol or drugs, smoking, or are particularly tired (adults will have slowed reactions, and be less aware of babies)
    • babies with a carer who is very large or on medication (may have less awareness)
    • babies born prematurely, or with low birth weight (will have weakened ‘wake-up’ responses)
    • babies who are put down to sleep on a couch, on an adult bed, in a makeshift setting or away from home

    Thursday, January 14, 2016

    Flax bassinets saving young lives

    I watched this with interest when it was on Maori news. When I was an early teen, I heard my parents talking about an aunty who had rolled over her baby and he died. What a sad situation.

    Flax bassinets saving young lives

    By Gary Farrow
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  • Wahakura - baby bassinets made from New Zealand flax - have been credited with reducing SUDI deaths by 30 percent. Photo / Whanau Ora Services
    Wahakura - baby bassinets made from New Zealand flax - have been credited with reducing SUDI deaths by 30 percent. Photo / Whanau Ora Services
    Precious leaves from New Zealand's native flax are being woven into baby bassinets to help prevent cot death.
    Around 60 babies pass away annually of sudden unexpected death in infancy (SUDI), occurring in their sleep.
    Landcare Research's flax collection at Lincoln University has found an additional use in the creation of bassinets, or wahakura, with the aim of turning these statistics around.
    Wahakura have been credited with reducing SUDI deaths by 30 percent.
    Land Research flax collection curator Katarina Tawiri was initially approached with the idea of the wahakura project by Te Puawaitanga Ki Ōtautahi Trust, a Christchurch provider of health, education and social services to Māori.
    Ms Tawiri is an experienced weaver herself, and in collaboration with Ngāi Tahu weaver Daphne O'Connell, she initiated workshops to teach midwives and expectant mothers to weave the bassinets.
    Māori account for over 60 per cent of SUDI rates in New Zealand, and the project aims to help Māori and Polynesian women who are particularly at risk of SUDI occurring in their families.
    "Traditionally Polynesian and Māori like to have their baby with them in bed. Wahakura allow parents to continue doing this but keep baby safe. They are such a simple solution to preventing unnecessary deaths," says Tawiri.
    She comments although the wahakura being woven today are not a traditional item, Māori feel a connection to them because of the traditional material and their hand-made quality.
    "Harakeke was and possibly still is one of the most important plants to Māori."
    Flax has historically been the main fibre used by Māori to make many things, from clothes to food baskets. Tawiri says Māori are known to have hung woven baskets from the rafters to keep babies off the ground.
    The extensive range of flaxes available from Land Research's collection provided a great opportunity for those involved in the project to find which species worked best for making wahakura.
    The wahakura project is funded by the Red Cross, and will continue into next year, with Tawiri planning to share a set of guidelines for weaving wahakura with a wider community.
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    Monday, January 11, 2016

    An open letter to the Attorney General . Sophie's Law

    Petitioning Attorney General An open letter to the Attorney General . Sophie's Law

    Attorny General please bring in Sophie's Law to protect all unborn babies post 30 weeks gestation.

    I was 39 weeks pregnant when a drunk driver on drugs crashed into my car - as a result of this accident my baby died. I gave birth to her still body. But despite this reckless drunk causing the accident in which my baby died, he only received a pathetic $950 fine and a 5 month driving suspension. The decision was made last month. It’s been hell. Instead of bringing my baby girl home I had to plan her funeral - I was that close to the end of my pregnancy. And now the man responsible gets away with it because she was stillborn and has no rights in a court of law. I want that law changed. I want all babies past 30 weeks gestation to have the right to be classed as a human being. I want pregnant women protected against acts of violence and against their babies dying because of an avoidable cause. Sophie should be alive but because of a careless act caused by a driver that does not care, he holds no responsibility for his action and walks free. All babies born past 20 weeks gestation need to have a birth certificate, a death certificate and also a funeral. So why is it that only in a court of law, does a baby have no rights to be counted? This petition is to give a voice to a little baby who will never take her first steps. Please, please support me by signing and sharing it to introduce Sophie’s Law. Thank you, Sarah. NB: Please note I do not want to affect a woman's right to abortion or have a pregnancy terminated for any medical reasons.
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    Attorney General An open letter to the Attorney General . Sophie's Law
    Sophie's Law to allow babies past 30 weeks gestation the right to be counted as a person.
    Sarah Milosevic started this petition with a single signature, and now has 77,099 supporters. Start a petition today to change something you care about.


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    Saturday, January 9, 2016

    Saving lives on land and in the air

    Saving lives on land and in the air

    luckily for the Mother and her child, this doctor on board the plane, tragedy was averted. The child was saved and the mother avoided from becoming a bereaved mother like me.

    A real life scenario and a medical hero.Dr Low was aboard a flight from Amsterdam when he heard someone ask for a doctor. A toddler who was running a high fever had lost conciousness. He promptly attended to the child, who came to about 30 minutes later. 

    Friday, January 8, 2016

    7 Things I’ve Learned Since the Loss of My Child

    7 Things I’ve Learned Since the Loss of My Child

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    Child loss is a loss like no other. One often misunderstood by many. If you love a bereaved parent or know someone who does, remember that even his or her “good” days are harder than you could ever imagine. Compassion and love, not advice, are what’s needed. If you’d like an inside look into why the loss of a child is a grief that lasts a lifetime, here is what I’ve learned in my seven years of trekking through the unimaginable.
    7 Things I've Learned Since the Loss of My Child
    1). Love never dies.
    There will never come a day, hour, minute or second I stop loving or thinking about my son. Just as parents of living children unconditionally love their children always and forever, so do bereaved parents. I want to say and hear his name just the same as non-bereaved parents do. I want to speak about my deceased child as normally and naturally as you speak of your living ones.
    I love my child just as much as you love yours– the only difference is mine lives in heaven and talking about about him is unfortunately quite taboo in our culture. I hope to change that. Our culture isn’t so great about hearing about children gone too soon, but that doesn’t stop me from saying my son’s name and sharing his love and light everywhere I go. Just because it might make you uncomfortable, doesn’t make him matter any less. My son’s life was cut irreversibly short, but his love lives on forever. And ever.
    2). Bereaved parents share an unspeakable bond.
    In my seven years navigating the world as a bereaved parent, I am continually struck by the power of the bond between bereaved parents. Strangers become kindreds in mere seconds– a look, a glance, a knowing of the heart connects us, even if we’ve never met before. No matter our circumstances, who we are, or how different we are, there is no greater bond than the connection between parents who understand the agony of enduring the death of a child. It’s a pain we suffer for a lifetime, and unfortunately only those who have walked the path of child loss understand the depth and breadth of both the pain and the love we carry.
    3). I will grieve for a lifetime.
    Period. The end. There is no “moving on,” or “getting over it.” There is no bow, no fix, no solution to my heartache. There is no end to the ways I will grieve and for how long I will grieve. There is no glue for my broken heart, no exilir for my pain, no going back in time. For as long as I breathe, I will grieve and ache and love my son with all my heart and soul. There will never come a time when I won’t think about who my son would be, what he would look like, and how he would be woven perfectly into the tapestry of my family. I wish people could understand that grief lasts forever because love lasts forever; that the loss of a child is not one finite event, it is a continuous loss that unfolds minute by minute over the course of a lifetime. Every missed birthday, holiday, milestone; should-be back-to-school years and graduations; weddings that will never be, grandchildren that should have been but will never be born– an entire generation of people are irrevocably altered forever.
    This is why grief lasts forever. The ripple effect lasts forever. The bleeding never stops.
    4). It’s a club I can never leave, but is full of the most shining souls I’ve ever known.
    This crappy club called child loss is a club I never wanted to join, and one I can never leave, yet is filled with some of the best people I’ve ever known. And yet we all wish we could jump ship– that we could have met another way– any other way but this. Alas, these shining souls are the most beautiful, compassionate, grounded, loving, movers, shakers and healers I have ever had the honor of knowing. They are life-changers, game-changers, relentless survivors and thrivers. Warrior moms and dads who redefine the word brave.
    Every day loss parents move mountains in honor of their children gone too soon. They start movements, change laws, spearhead crusades of tireless activism. Why? In the hope that even just one parent could be spared from joining the club. If you’ve ever wondered who some of the greatest world changers are, hang out with a few bereaved parents and watch how they live, see what they do in a day, a week, a lifetime. Watch how they alchemize their grief into a force to be reckoned with, watch how they turn tragedy into transformation, loss into legacy.
    Love is the most powerful force on earth, and the love between a bereaved parent and his/her child is a lifeforce to behold. Get to know a bereaved parent. You’ll be thankful you did.
    5). The empty chair/room/space never becomes less empty.
    Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. Empty, vacant, forever gone. Empty spaces that should be full, everywhere we go. There is and will always be a missing space in our lives, our families, a forever-hole-in-our-hearts. Time does not make the space less empty. Neither do platitudes, clichés or well-wishes for us to “move on,” or “stop dwelling,” from well-intentioned friends or family. Nothing does. No matter how you look at it, empty is still empty. Missing is still missing. The problem is nothing can fill it. Minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day, month after month, year after heartbreaking year the empty space remains. No matter how much time has passed.
    The empty space of our missing child(ren) lasts a lifetime. And so we rightfully miss them forever. Help us by holding the space of that truth for us.
    6). No matter how long it’s been, holidays never become easier without my son.
    Never, ever. Have you ever wondered why every holiday season is like torture for a bereaved parent? Even if it’s been 5, 10, or 25 years later? It’s because they really, truly are horrific. Imagine if you had to live every holiday without one or more of your precious children. Imagine how that might feel for you. It would be easier to lose an arm, a leg or two– anything— than to live without your flesh and blood, without the beat of your heart. Almost anything would be easier than living without one of more of your precious children. That is why holidays are always and forever hard for bereaved parents. Don’t wonder why or even try to understand. Know you don’t have to understand in order to be a supportive presence. Consider supporting and loving some bereaved parents this holiday season. It will be the best gift you could ever give them.
    7). Because I know deep sorrow, I also know unspeakable joy.
    Though I will grieve the death of my son forever and then some, it does not mean my life is lacking happiness and joy. Quite the contrary, in fact. It is not either/or, it’s both/and. Grief and joy can and do coexist. My life is more rich now. I live from a deeper place. I love deeper still. Because I grieve, I also know a joy like no other. The joy I experience now is far deeper and more intense than the joy I experienced before my loss. Such is the alchemy of grief.
    Because I’ve clawed my way from the depths of unimaginable pain, suffering and sorrow, again and again– when the joy comes, however and whenever it does– it is a joy that reverberates through every pore of my skin and every bone in my body. I feel all of it, deeply. I embrace and thank every blessed morsel of it. My life now is more rich and vibrant and full, not despite my loss, but because of it. In grief there are gifts, sometimes many. These gifts don’t in any way make it all “worth” it, but I am grateful beyond words for each and every gift that comes my way. I bow my head to each one and say thank you, thank you, thank you. Because there is nothing– and I mean absolutely nothing– I take for granted. Living life in this way gives me greater joy than I’ve ever known possible.
    I have my son to thank for that. Being his mom is the best gift I’ve ever been given.
    Even death can’t take that away.

    Cuddle cots aim to ease parents' pain

    When we lost Andrew, we had about 4 hours to cuddle Andrew. Then the autopsy dept reminded us to send him down for his procedure. At that time, I was upset I was rushed. I wanted as much time as I could  with him. On the other hand, I knew the autopsy staff needed to do their work before breakdown took place.

    If it wasn't for the autopsy, would I want more time with him? A cuddle cot would really be good.

    Image result for cuddle cotsA cuddle cot is a cooling pad that is placed into a bassinet to let parents have a couple of extra days with their dead babies, or "angel babies". They cost about $5000 to buy and import each.Jun 22, 2015

    - You can donate on the givealittle page here:

    A cuddle cot is a cooling system which is placed into a bassinet to let parents have a couple of extra days with their dead babies. There are very few in New Zealand.
    Many of us can only imagine what it's like losing a baby. But for 1 in every 200 parents, it's reality.
    The death of a baby can be traumatising for parents and most still do not want to be apart from their baby.
    This is one of the reasons Wellington woman Megan McMillan has set up a givealitte page to raise funds to buy a cuddle cot for the Hutt Hospital.
    Wellington woman Megan McMillan has set up a Give-A-Little page to raise money for a cuddle cot for Hutt Hospital.
    Wellington woman Megan McMillan has set up a Give-A-Little page to raise money for a cuddle cot for Hutt Hospital.
    A cuddle cot is a cooling pad that is placed into a bassinet to let parents have a couple of extra days with their dead babies, or "angel babies". They cost about $5000 to buy and import each.
    The only alternatives are ice packs, which need to be changed often, or enbalment.
    Mcmillan said after hearing about a woman in the South Island fundraising for a cuddle cot, she wanted to extend the opportunity to parents in the Wellington region.
    "Knowing they only get a short time with their 'angel' before saying their final goodbyes breaks my heart."
    At the moment, there are only a couple of cuddle cots throughout the country, she said.
    A Hataitai woman, who lost her son to a rare heart condition when he was 15-days-old, is one parent who said the cuddle cot helped her through one of the most difficult times of her life.
    The 38-year-oldsaid during her pregnancy she found out her baby was going to die very early in his life. Knowing that, she got in touch with Sands, an organisation that helps support parents and families after the death of a baby or infant, who told her about cuddle cots.
    "It just didn't feel right. When you lose a baby, you still have that parental instinct to keep your baby close to you and the cuddle cot enabled us to do that. He didn't leave our side for a second and it meant we got to have him at home for four days," she said.
    "Over the days we did see changes - he wasn't perfectly preserved - but it made it easier for me to come to terms with the fact that my baby had died."
    Otaki woman Michelle Gilbertson and her partner, Shane, had their baby taken from them less than 24 hours after she gave birth.
    Their baby, Jesse, died during delivery from suffocation and because it was a sudden death, his body had to go with the coroner and funeral director.
    Two days later, when he finally arrived home, he was covered in formaldehyde.
    "He came home for one night ... he had shrunk and was purple and red and he had an odour," Gilbertson remembers.
    "I didn't know about these cuddle cots, but had it been an option, I would have taken it. We would have had him for a few more days."
    "It would have been nicer to have him at home for a while longer."
    - You can donate on the givealittle page here:
     - Stuff

    Two Auckland mothers who have lost babies are trying a new method to ease other bereaved parents' grief.
    They've introduced cuddle cots, which give parents extra time to say goodbye to their babies.
    It's every parent's worst nightmare – leaving the maternity hospital empty-handed.
    That's what happened to Claire Montgomerie and Kirsten Hartley, who lost their babies Kate and Emma two years ago.
    Added to the heartbreak and pain, their babies were kept on ice-packs, wet and in the hospital refrigerators.
    "All you want to do is cuddle them and keep them close," Ms Montgomerie says.
    And they wanted time to say a final goodbye to their wee angels.
    To help ease the pain for others going through similar tragedy, Ms Montgomerie and Ms Hartley decided to fundraise $7000 so Auckland could have a cuddle cot, which preserves a baby for a couple of days.
    "They're not life-saving pieces of equipment, so they're not at the top of a procurement list for a hospital, but for a parent they're life-changing," says Ms Montgomerie.
    Sadly, losing a baby is a reality for one in 200 New Zealand parents.
    There are now 12 cuddle cots around the country. With an average of 700 infant and perinatal deaths every year, the goal is to have at least one in every hospital.

    Thursday, January 7, 2016


    A healthy 3 months is stabbed to death. A bereaved mother is left to mourn. Details are not clear. So I won't conjecture what had happened.

    Among talks with bereaved mothers, we often discuss:

    is it worst :

    when yr child is stillbirth or he died after.

    when your healthy baby is killed?

    Deceased organ donors

    Andrew's doctors asked us if we would donate his body to the hospital so they can learn about his syndrome. Without hesitation, I said yes, in my head, Andrew has no use for me, he might as well be useful to science. I didn't realise then that few people want to donate their loved ones.

    Deceased organ donors reach the greatest number yet

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  • A family member of an organ/tissue donor receives a camellia plant from a donor co-ordinator during a remembrance service for organ donors in Wellington. Photo / Hagen Hopkins
    A family member of an organ/tissue donor receives a camellia plant from a donor co-ordinator during a remembrance service for organ donors in Wellington. Photo / Hagen Hopkins
    Organ donation officials are hailing the increase in deceased donors last year to 53, as the greatest number yet.
    "This is a 15 per cent increase from the 46 donors in 2014 and a 47 per cent increase from the 36 donors in 2013," says the agency Organ Donation New Zealand (ODNZ).
    The annual tally tends to oscillate significantly from year to year and dipped down to 25 in 2006, from 40 in 2004.
    New Zealand's number of organ donors has traditionally been low compared with other developed countries. Even with last year's increase, our rate is only around one-third of the rate in recent years in countries that have the highest rates, such as Spain.
    The organ donation agency attributes last year's increase to improvements in the quality of organ donation services.
    It says there were also 78 live donors last year who donated a kidney or part of their liver to 78 recipients.
    Overall, the number of organ transplant recipients rose to 232 last year -- the greatest number ever -- from 214 in 2014, an increase of 8 per cent.
    The agency's clinical director, Dr Stephen Streat, says it has been greatly assisted by extra annual funding of $500,000 for four years, from mid-2012.
    "ODNZ continues to work with health professionals in hospitals to ensure that every situation where organ donation might be possible is recognised and that donation is compassionately discussed with every such patient's family by a health professional with knowledge and skill.
    "ODNZ believes that the increase in deceased organ donors has resulted from the quality programme, which the additional funding had supported, with the support and commitment of intensive care nurses and doctors throughout the country."

    Number of deceased organ donors each year

    •2015: 53
    •2014: 46
    •2013: 36
    •2012: 38
    •2011: 38
    •2010: 41
    •2009: 43
    •2008: 31
    •2007: 38
    •2006: 25
    •2005: 29
    •2004: 40
    •2003: 40
    Source: Organ Donation New Zealand