Tuesday, September 30, 2014

coffee for your vegs

I went to a restaurant, Triniti of Silver at Mt Albert and asked for some coffee grounds. The woman said I was lucky, and she gave me 2 bags.

I bit off more than I can chew, they were so heavy when I lugged them to the car. They must weighing 10 kilos. I went there for Xmas lunch. That's how I know there are coffee grounds. I mix them straight into the soil.

My local gas station's cafe also leaves out coffee grounds for people to take home. Sometimes I ask my church MABC s coffee  makers to give me the ground.

The texture of the coffee grounds is like soil, dark and rich. They increase the bulk in you veg garden. They supply nitrogen retained from the bean. This is a must-have plant nutrient for leafy greens and vegetables.

I am a mother to an angel


This annual project was started by I Am A Mother To An Angel. I Am A Mother To An Angel offers bereavement support and keepsakes for families who have lost children regardless of gestation/age or reason. Despite the name, I Am A Mother To An Angel is a place for anyone grieving the loss of a child: parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles etc.

Formerly known as the October 15th Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Project, I have changed the name to make sure ANYONE who has lost a child knows this project is for them and also to recognize the entire month of October as a month of awareness for any type of pregnancy, infant, or child loss to celebrate what we hope Ronald Reagan had envisioned to be a month for coming together as a community to acknowledge this pain. This includes any stage of gestational age or any age at all and any type of loss.

Why October?
In 1988 President Ronald Reagan declared the entire month of October as a national day of observance for Pregnancy and Infant Loss.

"Proclamation 5890 -- Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, 1988
October 25, 1988
By the President of the United States of America
A Proclamation
Each year, approximately a million pregnancies in the United States end in miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of the newborn child. National observance of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, 1988, offers us the opportunity to increase our understanding of the great tragedy involved in the deaths of unborn and newborn babies. It also enables us to consider how, as individuals and communities, we can meet the needs of bereaved parents and family members and work to prevent causes of these problems.
Health care professionals recognize that trends of recent years, such as smaller family size and the postponement of childbearing, adds another dimension of poignance to the grief of parents who have lost infants. More than 700 local, national, and international support groups are supplying programs and strategies designed to help parents cope with their loss. Parents who have suffered their own losses, health care professionals, and specially trained hospital staff members are helping newly bereaved parents deal constructively with loss.
Compassionate Americans are also assisting women who suffer bereavement, guilt, and emotional and physical trauma that accompany post-abortion syndrome. We can and must do a much better job of encouraging adoption as an alternative to abortion; of helping the single parents who wish to raise their babies; and of offering friendship and temporal support to the courageous women and girls who give their children the gifts of life and loving adoptive parents. We can be truly grateful for the devotion and concern provided by all of these citizens, and we should offer them our cooperation and support as well.
The Congress, by Senate Joint Resolution 314, has designated the month of October 1988 as ``Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month'' and authorized and requested the President to issue a proclamation in observance of this month.
Now, Therefore, I, Ronald Reagan, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of October 1988 as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities.
In Witness Whereof, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-fifth day of October, in the year of our Lord nineteen hundred and eighty-eight, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirteenth.
Ronald Reagan
[Filed with the Office of the Federal Register, 11:13 a.m., October 26, 1988]
Source: http://www.reagan.utexas.edu/archives/speeches/1988/102588b.htm"

Haven't lost a child in your family? This event is still for you! Support someone who has! Participate and spread the word and let everyone know you support pregnancy, infant, and child loss awareness. This is for anyone who has been impacted by the loss of a child or anyone who is supportive to someone who has!

What can do you?
Spread awareness and openly remember your baby/child!
Do something special in remembrance:
Light candles, make a poster, make a flyer, release balloons, release lanterns, donate to an organization in memory of your angel. Post a photo of whatever you decide to do here on the event wall during the month of October. We hope to make a video including photos of anything sent in and the names of angels that were shared about. Take time to share this event, spread the word, and invite your friends. I'd love for YOU to share photos of your angels and things you are doing for the month of awareness!

Share about your loss here on the event wall!
Write here telling the world about your angel(s).
Here is a simple form to get your stated:
Parents Names:
Angel's Name:
Date of Birth:
Date of Loss:
Cause of Loss:

Throughout the month of October and leading up to October I will have activities, games, giveaways, craft ideas, free keepsake graphics, sales/specials etc. Be sure to join the event and invite your friends/family. Together we can make a difference and remember our angels together as one.

ABC, Wednesday Letter L for lamb

The few songs I learn when I was in primary school was Baa Baa black sheep. and Mary had a little lamb.

Here in New Zealand, the statistics is there are more sheep than human.

Our family sweetest tale of mum is when Mum and Dad came to Christchurch New Zealand to attend brother Charles graduation for his LLB, they were driving along some country road, where they had to stop to let the sheep cross the road.

Mum, a child of Borneo had never seen a sheep. She requested to be allowed to get out of the car. No! but she went among the sheep. When she came back, she laughed out loud and said," CHOW BUN" meaning so smelly.  But she fulfilled her child hood dream of being with sheep. 

Thinking of sheep and lambs and Mother, two of us siblings were born in this month. Mother's SHIO NAN RE , when she was just 16, she gave birth to eldest Sister Rose. SHIO NAN RE is the day of the greatest suffering, child birth.


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Sunday, September 28, 2014

Reflecting last year.

The word is SHEN, of life. This is a quote chosen by Dalai Lama.

Last year, I was invited to run a workshop for the New Zealand Sand's Conference. It went really well, and my talk is available in the whole of New Zealand.  It was such a privilege. My book is also available in the Waikato are and Christichurch.

I met a mid wife who bought my book for her work.

  • As you know Sands Waikato is doing the conference for 2013. We are trying to cover differet cultures & believes this year. We are people doing workshops in regards to Maori, Pacific & christian culture. We are wanting someone to cover the asia culture around death. Would you be interested or be able to recommend someone who could.
    Let me know what you think
    Regards Amie
  • July 17

  • July 23
  • Ann Chin

    Hi Amie,
    I shall like to do it on the Asian Culture. Do you want it as bereavement as a whole, or baby bereavement?
  • July 24
  • Sands Waikato

    Hi Ann,
    Firstly sorry to hear that about the funeral.
    We are making the book avaible to all Sands Waikato families. We have a Sands Waikato library that it is now part off. Covering both would be great. The aim is to give people an understanding of how different cultures, views & how they deal with death. As I imagine there will be alot of midwifes interested in this session a littlte bit about birth, followed by the passing of a baby would be great.
    Look forward to hearing from you.
    Amie The conference is on the 20-21 September 2013.

    This message is from Cathy - I'm the one putting the programme together, and I'm thrilled you're willing to offer a workshop/presentation on the death of a baby from an Asian perspective.

    Thank you again for contributing in such a meaningful way to this special event!! Cathy

There Is Honour As A Funeral Makeup Artist

Last year, when my 50 something sis in law died last year, the family told the funeral makeup artist not to make her like a tart. They did her very elegantly.

This Girl Learns That There Is Honour As A Funeral Makeup Artist

A young make up artist finds herself in an underwhelming career with a embalmer-undertaker.
It wasn’t a job she signed up for, but she kept on because of the money. It surprisingly paid well. Working with a very experienced embalmer, she learns that there is honour in the job.
It then becomes a personal journey for her, too.
Watch ‘Sunflowers’《太阳花》by Quek Shio Chuan:
‘Sunflowers’ 《太阳花》was inspired by the death of his grandfather’s death, says Quek.
“Looking at the him for the last time through the glass panel of the coffin, lots of emotional thoughts rushed through my head. But of all things, the pearl placed on his lips caught my attention.”
Quek’s curiosity about the symbolic pearls into afterlife led him to discover more about the life and work of undertakers, the bereavement industry, and the tangle of emotions and strife family members of the deceased often have.
Also Watch: ‘Guang’, a short and inspiring drama by Quek by true events about his brother’s autism.

A cute little doggie bootie,

A cute little doggie bootie,
A bootie never worn.

Today I had an idea,
I will use it for my camera pouch.

Twenty five years ago, at 7am,
My little boy Andrew was born.

Twenty five years ago, at 8 pm
We were told he was dying.

Happy 25th birthday in Heaven.
You are forever in my heart.

Saturday, September 27, 2014

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This is a hundred-year-old journal of two families, the Chans and the Kongs. It traces the first movement in 1907 from Kwang Zhou, China to the jungles of Borneo. It is a six-generational record with the second wave of movement to England, Canada, Japan, Singapore, Australia, USA ...
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Thursday, September 25, 2014

Tracy Mulgrew and songs from her heart.

Tracy Mulgrew  have a lot in common. We live in New Zealand. The main thing is something I wish I knew her from different circumstances.

We both are bereaved mothers. Tracy lost her daughter to cancer at 10 years. Honestly her grief is deeper than mine as Andrew was just 55 days. 

Bereavement brings out some latent talent in us. Tracy shares her grief in song and poems. They are beautiful and they are sang from the bottom of her heart. Just like I express mine in writing.

I've written nine songs now, all of them unique. The local radio station has been playing some of them but home recordings and said I should go and get them recorded professionally, have been in contact with polytechnic in invercargill as they have an audio/sound production course, the guy is putting it to his students to see if it's one they want to take on. Curtis and I reworked this first song I ever wrote, it's adapted from a poem I wrote not long after Jessica's death. I was thinking if I did get a CD made I could give it away but ask for donations for Child Cancer instead.

Tracy has also helped other bereaved parents by forming the Bereaved Parents of NZ on facebook
Bereaved Parents of NZ.

Thanks Tracy. Paki Paki and Kia Keha.


Monday, September 22, 2014

Isabel Allende , woman writer

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Isabel Allende (Spanish: [isaˈβel aˈʝende] ( ); born 2 August 1942) is a Chilean writer.[1][2] Allende, whose works sometimes contain aspects of the "magic realist" tradition, is famous for novels such as The House of the Spirits (La casa de los espíritus, 1982) and City of the Beasts (La ciudad de las bestias, 2002), which have been commercially successful. Allende has been called "the world's most widely read Spanish-language author".[3] In 2004, Allende was inducted into the American Academy of Arts and Letters,[4] and in 2010, she received Chile's National Literature Prize.[5]
Allende's novels are often based upon her personal experience and pay homage to the lives of women, while weaving together elements of myth and realism. She has lectured and toured many American colleges to teach literature. Fluent in English as a second language, Allende was granted American citizenship in 2003, having lived in California with her American husband since 1989.

Isabel's second book was written when her daughter died. She wrote about void, emptiness, darkness Just like Isabel, my first book brings someone to connect with me almost every day.  As a writer, the greatest accolade back from a neonatal nurse from the University hospital of Toronto. She said she read my book. The head of the NICU there gave her the book to read before she took up her position.

I would be a dream I won't ask if I can achieve a fraction of her success. I have already succeeded. Recently, a counselor/therapist read my 4th book, Cry of oppressed women told me she will use it as reference for her work.

My books as reference for Professionals

Published May 2014

Women face many kinds of oppression.

A counselor/therapist  read my book and said she would use it as a reference for her work. This is the best accolade one can get from a professional. Cry is my second book where it is used.

Diary of a bereaved mother is used in a university hospital in Canada as a reference for professionals in neonatal intensive care.


Tuesday, September 9, 2014

warm fuzzy feeling, Andrew's birthday Month September

On Sunday, a new friend gave me this lovely infinity scarf. I was chatting  with another friend when I  got this glow of fuzzy feeling. When I was pregnant with Andrew, I knitted a coat with a similar texture and colour. I wore it everywhere I went. It was stretchy just like this scarf, and I wore it even when I was 9 months pregnant.

I had forgotten about this purple coat until I chatted with Roz. Andrew might have died, but he is in my heart, and it was having him that I became a writer. 

Monday, September 8, 2014



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Sunday, September 7, 2014

ngopi: Habitat For Humanity (www.habitat.org.nz) and The A21 Campaign (www.thea21campaign.org).

My daughter told me about this place where all profits went to charity.  It reminds me of the charity my friends and I ran for the Deaf Ministry in Kenya, but on a bigger scale.

I wish them all the best.


More than just a hangout place.

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Father's day 2014

someone says a praying mantis prays when it sees an angel. Today is Father's day. May those families who are hurting today, may the symbol of the praying mantis give you peace. the Father's day of 25 years ago was the last Father's day we celebrated with joy. Each year after that was tinged with something missing, we have an angel celebrating his Father's day in Heaven.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Praying mantises


One of the grieving mothers, Sandra. mentioned that "Some believe that a praying mantis kneels when angels are near" 

I have had many praying mantises come to visit me, and I never gave much thought except I had 2 golden ones, thinking they are very special." 
The next time, one comes, I will think of my late baby Andrew. September is his birthday month.