My
oldest girl started knitting. She made a a possum/merinowool scarf. She
dyed it antique rose colour. She even got her own label. BIG HUG love,
Deb
I used to knit a lot for her.
Monday, March 31, 2014
Saturday, March 29, 2014
Sands, A Little Life, Not a Little Loss.
Today I met a new mum,
She asked what I do,
I said writing,
What do you write?
I write almost anything.
My first book was my journey.
My baby died.
Oh! my baby died too.
My arms went out to her.
I showed her my 2 Sands Wrist bands.
It says: Sands, A Little Life, Not a Little Loss.
I made a special friend today.
Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.
Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.
I tell them that it is ok to grieve.
There is no time limit.
Don't tell a Grieving parent to move on before they are ready.
She asked what I do,
I said writing,
What do you write?
I write almost anything.
My first book was my journey.
My baby died.
Oh! my baby died too.
My arms went out to her.
I showed her my 2 Sands Wrist bands.
It says: Sands, A Little Life, Not a Little Loss.
I made a special friend today.
Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.
Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.
I tell them that it is ok to grieve.
There is no time limit.
Don't tell a Grieving parent to move on before they are ready.
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Friday, March 21, 2014
stars
Some of my friends adopt a star to remember their loved decease one.
For $10, members of the public can select a star to adopt from the catalogue, and receive an e-mail certificate and updates if any planets are discovered around their star. All the money raised goes toward funding scientific research on the stars.
http://www.space.com/
The Inuit say the stars are holes in heaven. We see people we love shining through.
Thursday, March 20, 2014
University of Auckland Library and learning services
3 results for The Catalogue
| Material Type | Add to My Shelf Action | Record Details and Options | |||
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
Material Type:
Book
|
|
From China to Borneo and beyond / Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan.Ann Kit Suet Chin 1954-Auckland, N.Z. : Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan 2013.
Check library holdings
|
|||
Material Type:
Book
|
|
|
|||
|
Sunday, March 16, 2014
My author page
When you cry, I cry with you. I too lost my
baby.
Writer, Mum, Teacher, Parent Advocate, Public
Speaker.
“Diary of a bereaved mum, Goodbye my baby”
“From China to Borneo to Beyond”
“Mail Order Mail”
http://annkitsuetchin.blogspot.co.nz annkschin@yahoo.com
Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan
Ann Chin was
born in British Sarawak in Borneo.
She graduated
from the University of Windsor (Canada), Auckland University and Auckland
University of Technology.
She teaches
ESOL to children and adults.
Her favourite
charity is the Deaf children in Kenya. She helped raise funds to separate the
pair of Nepalese Siamese twins in Singapore.
Ann is mum to
3 surviving children and angel Andrew, (29.9 to 22.11.1989). Ann is married to
Dr. Chen Chen Onn PhD.
Her first
book was written as a therapy for herself and to help other bereaved parents. Ann
appeared in a National NZ TV Documentary, “It’s OK to cry.” A Write-up in the
Aucklander and her book “Diary of a bereaved mother,” was exhibited at the
Peacock Art Gallery, Upton Country, Dorset Park, England.
Her books are
circulated in New Zealand, Australian and Malaysian libraries.
Photo: courtesy Francis Chen
Friday, March 14, 2014
a kind act
Saw this lovely act,
family of departed loved one,
donated this bench,
to their memory,
gives tired beach goers,
a lovely place to sit,
and enjoy the sea view.
family of departed loved one,
donated this bench,
to their memory,
gives tired beach goers,
a lovely place to sit,
and enjoy the sea view.
Thursday, March 13, 2014
Angels and their bereaved parents.
Deborah was doing well in the crèche with Andrea. One day she came up to the ward to give Andrew a picture she had made. She had drawn her family photo. When I saw it, I cried. She drew Andrew as a baby floating above us. She had glued onto him a blue Chinese conical hat. The rest of us were standing firmly on the ground. She told me that she stuck the hat on because Andrew was a Chinese boy and he was up in the skies because he was an angel. To her, it was a good picture. She had in her own way accepted that Andrew was going to die and he was going to be an angel. We pinned the picture above Andrew’s cot, and she proudly told everyone that her baby brother was going to be an angel. -
Helping the bereaved grieve.
In my book, I have a chapter on helping the bereaved grieve. One section is helping children grieve.
Deborah drew this when Andrew was dying in the ICU. She had stuck a conical hat on Andrew, because she knew we were Chinese living in a White man's world. She explained her drawing to all the visitors in NICU.
Deborah drew this when Andrew was dying in the ICU. She had stuck a conical hat on Andrew, because she knew we were Chinese living in a White man's world. She explained her drawing to all the visitors in NICU.
Deborah's art in an exhibition in England
emotions. In my book, I had a chapter on how to help
children grieve. This was how 4 1/2 years old Deborah
grieved while waiting her brother die.
Forever In My Heart exhibition which is at the Peacock Art Gallery, Upton Country Park, from 31 January to 4 February 2013.
Judy Lancaster-Bowen
Hello Ann and Deborah,
The Forever in my Heart exhibition is this week and your book and
Deborah's drawings really look so lovely. Thank you so much for
including them in the exhibition. Many people, especially, stop for
quite a while and look and comment on Deborah's drawings. Really
spending the time looking at her Chinese Baby, Andrew, and your family
picture. It does touch my heart each time I see someone standing in
front of her drawings, and that even though it has been a long time
since Andrew passed, you are still able to communicate what was going on
for your family when Andrew was going to be "an angel".
Here is a link to the website where I have uploaded photographs from the exhibition.http://www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com/134494020
You can also see more photographs on our facebook page:www.facebook.com/foreverinmyheartexhibition
Thank you so much
Judy
Forever in my Heart - www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com
www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com
Forever in my Heart - www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com
www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com
Forever in my Heart - www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com
Day old Andrew
Today, a facebook friend posted a photo of her baby's coffin about to be lowered down into his little grave. I told her, I had no recollection of seeing Andrew's coffin being lowered. Did I block that into a recess in my brain?
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Plunket, Mt Albert Baptist Church and me.
Nau mai, haere mai. Welcome to Plunket.
We are New Zealand's largest provider of
support services for the development, health and wellbeing of children
under 5. Plunket works together with families and communities, to ensure
the best start for every child. Whānau āwhina - caring for families.
My church, Mt Albert Baptist Church had been hosting Christmas at Rocket park. Plunket was our beneficiary. Today, they came to thank us.
This week, it was Plunket collection day. I took their photo and told them I was once a plunket mum.
30 years ago, I was a young mother with no immediate family in New Zealand. I was a beneficiary of Plunket.
25 years ago, when I was expecting Andrew, and after he died, Plunket was there to help me a lot.
25 years ago, when I was expecting Andrew, and after he died, Plunket was there to help me a lot.
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
a beautiful place to reflect
At Western Springs yesterday, I saw many
shags. Deb was 4 and half when Andrew was born and died. I used to go to
the lakes and cry. Andrew could never see such a beautiful place. Did u
have a special place to go to grieve?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)